The Mother Land Africa

There has been a lot going on in Africa lately and not too much have been good. Killings and the raping of the black woman it all seems so insane. But yet little has been done as far as support for the mother land. And to me the big question is why? As we look at this world today we see so many countries in turmoil and most of them because of internal civil war but some are having a little help from out side sources. And it all boils down to resources one faction wants to control it and not share in the wealth. Just like in Africa, a place rich in resources as well as beauty and wonder.

The mother land of life an all its wonder as we know of it. The epic center of all wonders a fantasy as well as true joy of the heart. But why is there so little help for Africa. Well manly because just that it is Africa. As history has showed us any time there is a problem over in Africa it must be dealt with by us! We must step up and give support to our home of origin. To make the world take notice of what is going on and then finally, maybe the world will step in and say hey we can’t stand by and watch this happen we must do something!

And then that something starts out to look like a very good thing.

You hear about it on the local news stations for a while maybe a week and then it dies. And just like the news stories the effort dies and you hear nothing else. But only the independent news stations show you what really is happening there! Because when the next tragedy happens over there and the independent stations have been telling us about it for weeks. Finally the local

News will show or are allowed to show something about it that again last for maybe a week and then you hear nothing about it again.

And if you want to know the real truth, check out your independent news stations for all real news. Now if what is happening over in Africa was going on any where else in the world it would be treated as a world disaster and you would here about it everyday and see all the countries of the world getting together to do something about it. But because it is Africa the same old routine is being put into place and will not change until we make it change! This change must come from the United States of America. Because we are the standard of this big ball or wax. When we get involved the other countries take notice and say well we can not just let them take all the glory!

And that’s when things start to happen for the good and changes start to happen. But it is just that it takes the USA so much time to decide to get involved that usually when they do it has gotten so bad that it calls for a major move to calm down the turmoil! Why! It is not like we don’t see what is happening why does it always take a major disaster or tragedies to get us to do what is right. Why!

As I sit here at 5:46am writing this I can’t help but to wonder who will be reading this after I submit it and if it will get anyone’s attention to move them to action for the cause of Africa to stop the tragedies?

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Liapela’s founder and mother of three, Alejandra James, and her co-founder/husband, Oliver James, attended the retailers-only expo hoping to discover new products that will appeal to their urban, contemporary clientele.

“The ABC Kids Expo is one of the industry events Liapela looks forward to most each year,” says Alejandra. “It’s where we discover and learn about the new products and collections our favorite brands will release in the new year. It’s a wonderful opportunity to scout products we believe our customers will love.”

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How to Stop Group Chat in iMessage on iPod Touch

kid-josh. (Jan. 29, 2012). Cyberbullying, would you do it [photo].


Has this ever happened to you? Your tween daughter somehow becomes part of a group chat on iMessages with several of her closest "friends." The next thing you know, the insults start flying. You tell her to simply leave the group, but you soon realize that this is impossible. As long as one member of the group continues to hit, "Reply," your daughter is stuck receiving unwanted text messages.

Apparently, there is a glitch in the Apple system that prevents users from leaving group chat situations. In fact, your daughter might not have even joined the group voluntarily. Anyone can just include her username in the chat, and she's in, whether she likes it or not.

Oftentimes, when a group member tries to ask other members to help delete the group, he or she is ridiculed by the other members. My daughter experienced this when members of her group began arguing and she asked them to stop and text elsewhere. Group members turned on her and said they were going to get revenge for her comment.

I encourage all parents who have experienced this situation to urge Apple to allow iPod Touch users to leave group chats with its next update. Contact them at 

Until enough parents complain and Apple decides to update the iOS system, the only way to get rid of a group chat is if everyone in the group deletes the messages. So what can you do if a group chat member refuses to stop hitting, "Reply"? Here are your options:
  1. Ask the group members to delete the group: A strongly worded message from "Sally's Mom" asking all group members to delete all group chat messages and stop hitting, "Reply" will sometimes motivate the group to let the chat die.
  2. Talk to parents: If group members refuse to stop the abusive texts, a phone call to a parent or two should do the trick.
  3. Turn off iMessages: Go to Settings--Messages, and turn off the iMessage app.
  4. Don't allow your child to create an iMessage account in the first place: Go to Settings--Restrictions--Accounts, and click "Don't Allow Changes." 

The iPhone does have an option under Messaging that allows users to select "No" to Group Messaging. Unfortunately, the iPod Touch has no such option, which is the device most tweens are using before age 12 or so.

Until this glitch is resolved, please be sure to monitor your daughter's text messages closely. A friendly group chat can quickly get nasty if one group member gets offended. And if anyone finds a way to delete a member from group chat on the iPod Touch, please let me know.

Saturday, May 25, 2013

No Justice When It Comes to Tween Body Image

Like most 10-year-old girls, my daughter loves to shop at Justice. So I was flipping through the latest Justice catalog that came in the mail, and I noticed a disturbing trend. Before I point out the obvious, see if you can see what's wrong with the following pictures:


OK, so besides the fact that these supposedly "tween" girls look about 18 years old, did you notice anything else?

How about the fact that all the girls have the exact same body shape? They are all tall and skinny with long arms and legs. They are all the same height and weight. Even all of their arms are the same length. Creepy, right?

Now think about how your daughter must feel to see an entire catalog full of girls "her age" wearing the clothes "everyone has to wear," yet she doesn't look at all like these girls. She's not as tall as they are. Her clothes don't fit her the same way. Her hair isn't as shiny as theirs, and her teeth aren't as straight and white.

What message is Justice sending our daughters?

After looking at this catalog, I decided to have a conversation with my daughter about body image. I asked her if there was something strange about all the girls in this magazine, and at first she wasn't sure. But when I pointed out that all the girls looked the same, she realized what I was talking about and wanted to know why.

I explained to her that companies like Justice choose girls that look a certain way to model their clothes. I also mentioned how the girls in the television shows my daughter watches tend to look the same way, such as the girls in "A.N.T. Farm," "Shake It Up," and "Austin and Ally" (although the Trish character in this show doesn't fit the mold).

We talked about how the media makes some girls think that their bodies aren't good enough if they don't look like the girls in the magazines. I pointed out to her that only a small handful of her friends look anything like the girls in those pictures. She has friends of all shapes and sizes, and it's all OK.

She seemed to understand what I was saying, and I was glad that we had that talk. Now I need to start preparing myself for the real girls who will soon start telling my daughter she's not pretty enough or tall enough or skinny enough. She will be in middle school next year, so it won't be long now.

I could be outraged with Justice for promoting this unrealistic body image to young girls. But I actually saw it as an excellent opportunity to talk with my daughter about her own body image and to reinforce her unique beauty. Fortunately, she has high self esteem and doesn't feel the need to compare herself to others. She's happy just the way she is. I hope her confidence is strong enough to get her through her teenage years in one piece.

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Why I'm Glad the Twinkie is Toast

To all of you nostalgic saps who are mourning the potential death of the Twinkie, I offer the following quiz:

How many Twinkies have you actually consumed in the past month? (NOTE: You should not count this week when the world decided that Twinkies were edible again.)
  1. If your answer is more than 10: How old are you, and how high is your body mass index?
  2. If your answer is between one and nine: Really? You picked a tasteless batch of chemicals over a Swiss Roll or an Oatmeal Creme Pie? 
  3. If your answer is less than one: Move on with your life and stop trying to relive your childhood.
The fact is, Twinkies are dead because they are disgusting, low-quality pseudofood. They taste like wet sponges filled with Vaseline. On a scale of dreadful to delicious, Twinkies rank right up there with Vienna sausages and potato sticks.

Yes, we all loved Twinkies when we were kids, but we also thought lead-based paint, Play-Doh, and boogers were pretty tasty. How sophisticated could our palates have been back then? Anyone who has eaten a Twinkie past the age of 25 should: a) reevaluate their snacking habits, and b) realize that, in a word, Twinkies are gross.

My kids have eaten Twinkies only once in their lives, and they didn't like them. They would much rather eat a freshly baked doughnut or a piece of actual cake. This is probably why Twinkies are dying to begin with: Americans are no longer satisfied with the bland TV dinners and prepackaged foods of years past. We can now get cheap, semi-healthy food at any fast food restaurant or grocery store.

Unfortunately for many busy families, this cheap, semi-healthy food has become a regular substitute for healthy, homemade food. Like most things, moderation is key.

So when it comes to the Twinkie, I certainly won't be shedding any tears. Taking Twinkies off the shelves means one fewer unhealthy food choice at the grocery store.

R.I.P., Twinkie the Kid. You will not be missed.

Saturday, November 17, 2012

Don't Lose Sleep Over New Co-Sleeping Study

A new study has found that women who co-sleep with their babies are possibly more prone to stress than those who don't.

I co-slept with both of my kids, and I could not disagree more.

According to a Fox News article, "Breastfeeding and co-sleeping with baby affects mom's welfare," the study followed 195 women in a Chicago suburb for six months after they gave birth. The study showed that mothers who slept with their babies had "less-than-optimal daily rhythms" of the stress hormone cortisol. Those who had the best rhythms were moms who breastfed and then did not share a bed with their baby.

Apparently, an "optimal rhythm" of cortisol is one in which the levels are high in the morning and then decline in the evening. The study showed that women who co-slept with their babies had less of a decline of cortisol throughout the day.

This study is bogus on many levels:
  1. Researchers only tested 195 women. That's hardly an adequate sampling of the overall population.
  2. They only tested women from a single Chicago suburb. Who's to say new moms in other areas of the country would have similar results?
  3. There is no evidence of a correlation between the cortisol levels and the co-sleeping. Maybe these women were stressed to begin with. Maybe they were poor, single moms. Maybe their pregnancies were unexpected and/or unwanted. Maybe they had other children to deal with or stressful jobs. Who knows? 
Photo courtesy Marta Dehnel, stock.xchng

All I know is that co-sleeping was the best thing that could have happened to me as a new mom. My daughter would NOT sleep unless she was physically touching me. I tried the whole "cry it out" thing, and after hours of nonstop crying (both my daughter and me), I decided that there had to be a better way. You want to talk about stress, try standing outside the bedroom door while your infant daughter is alone in her crib screaming herself hoarse.

She ended up sleeping with me almost every night until she was about 6 years old. I still occasionally sleep in her bed if she's feeling particularly needy.

My son, on the other hand, slept with me for less than a year. He didn't need as much physical contact, so he was in a "big boy bed" in no time.

As for the relationship between SIDS and co-sleeping, this article by Dr. Sears says that worldwide research has shown that the SIDS rate is lowest in countries where babies typically sleep with their parents. The vast majority of deaths from co-sleeping result from parents who smoke, who are obese, or who are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

The bottom line is that co-sleeping works for many families, and a single study should not discourage a mom from listening to the needs of her infant. You know your child best. Follow your instincts, and do what comes naturally. It's the best way for everyone to get a good night's sleep.

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Family Game Night a Great Way to Unplug

My husband made the greatest purchase of our lives last weekend when he found this Pokemon Monopoly game at a garage sale for a dollar.

Did you catch that? It's a Monopoly game about POKEMON!! And my kids are only ABSOLUTELY OBSESSED with Pokemon!

So for the past two nights, we have shut down the computers, walked away from the iPods and cell phones, and turned off the video games in order to play this game. We look just like those smiling families on the Hasbro Family Game Night commercials.

Artist's rendering our our Family Game Night experience

Pokemon Monopoly is a lot like the classic Monopoly game, except the little metal tokens are Pokemon characters (I'm Charmander).

You play with Pokedollars instead of money, you catch Pokemon instead of buying properties, and you purchase Pokemon Centers instead of houses. You can still go to jail, though, and you still have Free Parking (whatever the heck that is).

We have been having so much fun that I'm kicking myself for not doing it sooner. Like many families, we get caught up in our electronic worlds. Too many times, I've looked up from my laptop to see every member of my family glued to a screen somewhere. It's like we're all in the same room, but we live in different worlds. It disturbs me.

I'm the first to admit that it is extremely difficult for me to walk away from my computer. Between blogging (which I love), working (which I hate), and aimless surfing (which leeches my time like a parasite), I am constantly being pulled toward my laptop.

Family Game Night was a conscious decision to "unplug" for the sake of my kids. I am thinking of implementing a regular game night each week in which all electronics are turned off, and the family is turned some good old-fashioned fun.

A look through my hall closet revealed that we actually have a collection of different Monopoly Games from over the years: Star Wars Monopoly, The Simpsons Monopoly, and Electronic Banking Monopoly. Maybe we'll start a Monopoly Month, followed by Word Games Weeks (with Scrabble and Boggle), and maybe a fun action game such as Jenga.


The possibilities are endless, and it doesn't really matter what you play. The key is to make an effort to unplug from the gadgets and plug in to the family. Feel free to share your experiences.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Just Call Me the Sugar Nazi

My daughter had a friend sleep over the other night. I'm not a big fan of sleepovers, so we don't do them very often. But this girl is one of my favorites of Sally's friends. We'll call her Peggy. She's a nice girl, low maintenance, no drama. It's hard to find those qualities in a 10-year-old girl nowadays.

Peggy brought a large bag of leftover Halloween candy with her. We were going to the movies, so her mom let her bring the candy to take with us. She also proceeded to eat a great deal of the candy, both before and after the movie. Then the following morning, she drank chocolate milk with breakfast and started back in on the Halloween candy by 10:00 a.m.

As a result, Sally wanted to eat just as much candy as her friend. I tried to be cool about it, but anyone who knows me knows I have "issues" with sugar.

You see, we as Americans eat too much sugar. It's as simple as that. So I try to limit the amount of sugar my kids consume on a daily basis. This is much easier said than done because sugar lurks in EVERYTHING they eat and drink!

I tried to explain this to Sally the other day. She had eaten two of those Nature Valley Oats and Dark Chocolate granola bars for breakfast. (Yes, I know it's chocolate for breakfast. I regretted it as soon as I let her have it.) They have 12 grams of sugar, which is the same amount that's in some breakfast cereals. The problem was that she was still hungry and wanted to eat two of the peanut butter granola bars, too. Those have 11 grams of sugar.

So I broke it down and did the math. If she ate the extra granola bars, she would have consumed 23 grams of sugar, which is more sugar than two Reese's Peanut Butter Cups! And it was only 9:00 in the morning!

When I pointed this out to Sally, she seemed to understand, and she agreed to eat some cashews instead. But a normal mom without a sugar obsession might not think twice about giving her child a couple of extra granola bars. This is why we have so many overweight, unhealthy kids.

I did some research, and the American Heart Association recommends that preschoolers consume about 4 teaspoons (16 grams) of sugar per day, children 4-8 should eat around 3 teaspoons (12 grams) per day, and preteens and teens can consume 5-8 teaspoons per day. So my daughter just about met her quota for the day on the first granola bars alone.

I often feel as if I'm fighting a losing battle. Sugar is everywhere! Our children are programmed to seek it out, and adults are programmed to give it to them. My mother is an expert at justifying giving my kids junk food.

She'll say things like, "Look, this pudding has calcium in it," or "At least frozen yogurt is healthy."

Sometimes I just need to lighten up and let my kids eat sweets, but someone has to be the voice of reason in this greedy, excess-driven world. I hope I'm not giving them eating disorders by making such a big deal about their sugar intake, but at the same time I don't want obese, cavity-infested kids, either. I suppose there's a balance to be struck.

As we finally say goodbye to the Halloween candy, we can now look forward to the gluttony of Thanksgiving and the greed of Christmas. Happy holidays!


Monday, November 12, 2012

When Another Adult Disciplines Your Child

My 8-year-old son had an eye doctor's appointment today. He wears glasses, and he has not been able to see as well as he should, so I took him in to get a new prescription for some new glasses.

We saw a new doctor that we hadn't seen before. He seemed nice enough, but when the doctor put that refractor machine over M's face (the one with all the lenses that looks like a pair of space-aged binoculars), things got a bit wonky.

In case you're new here, M has mild Asperger's Syndrome as well as some sensory processing issues. He is a sensory seeker, meaning he is constantly feeling, touching, tasting, and squirming. He can't help himself. It's a compulsion for him to touch things. So when the doctor pushed that giant metal mask up against his face, his first instinct was to bring his wiggly fingers up for a quick touchy-feely.

The doctor told him a couple of times not to touch, but M just couldn't help himself. (When I asked him about it later, he told me he didn't even know he was touching it.) So finally the doctor had enough. He brought out the big guns: a booming voice that actually scared both M and me.

"I do NOT want you to touch this," he said with such authority that my insides went cold. "It is very expensive to have this equipment cleaned, so you will NOT touch it again."

M just said very quietly, "OK," and he put his hands under his legs so that he wouldn't forget.

After that, the doctor became quite friendly. He immediately changed the tone of his voice, and he was both polite and encouraging throughout the rest of the exam. I decided it was best to keep my mouth shut at the time, but now I'm wondering if I should have said something to the doc.

When we left the office, I asked M if the doctor had scared him or hurt his feelings, and he said no. Apparently, the incident didn't phase him at all. It did, however, phase me.

I can't stop thinking about it: Should I have said something to the doctor? Should I have stuck up for M and told the doc not to yell at my child? Should I have explained that M has sensory issues and can't help having feely fingers?

Or did the doc do the right thing? M should have listened and not touched the equipment. But when I asked him about it later, he said he didn't even remember doing it. What's the right course of action here?

I went to bat for M this summer when his principal put him in the 3rd grade class with the meanest teacher in the school. I had heard that a child actually wet her pants in this teacher's class because she was afraid to ask to use the bathroom. I told the principal that we don't yell at our kids at home, and we will not tolerate our child being yelled at in school. I won that battle, and M now has the kindest, sweetest teacher I could ask for.

Should I have gone to bat for him today?

This issue concerns me on several levels. On one hand, M's personality (and anyone with an Aspie would probably agree) makes him a bit annoying sometimes. He tends to stand too close, talk too loud, and wiggle too much. It gets on people's nerves.

On the other hand, his personality also makes him oblivious to the fact that he annoys people! He has no idea why his grandmother doesn't want him to "eat" her hair or why his friends back away when he starts touching their faces. And today, he didn't bat an eyelash when the doctor raised his voice and reprimanded in a very firm manner. So in a way, it's a blessing that he is so unaware of how others view him.

I guess I did the right thing by keeping my mouth shut at the doctor's office. As long as it didn't upset M, I'm OK with it. I just don't want to find out that a teacher has been yelling at him or another student has been bullying him, and he doesn't even realize it. I suppose that's a bridge we will cross when we come to it.

It's a tricky business to stick up for your kids. Mine are getting to the age where they need to start standing up for themselves. I can only hope that when the time comes, M will know what to do.