World-Renowned Soul Healer Master Zhi Gang Sha Featured Speaker on Soul Healing Miracles at New Life Expo, April 26, 2014 Plus via Global Webcast

San Francisco, CA (PRWEB) April 16, 2014

The #1 New York Times bestselling author, founder of Soul Mind Body Medicine®, and miracle soul healer Master Zhi Gang Sha, will deliver the featured speech on ancient and new sacred wisdom to create Soul Healing Miracles at the 13th Annual New Life Expo on Saturday April 26 at 2 pm PT, Room 6 and via global webcast. A world-renowned healer, Master Sha offers private consultations for personal soul healing at Booth 315 (by appointment), and unveils his acclaimed Source Chinese Calligraphy: Ling Guang Pu Zhao (Shining Soul Light) healing art along with his newest national bestselling book, Soul Healing Miracle on Friday, April 25 from 4-10 pm, Saturday, April 26 from 10 am-8 pm, and Sunday, April 27 from 11am-7pm at the San Mateo Event Center, Fiesta Hall, 1346 Saratoga Drive, San Mateo, California. For more information about Master Zhi Gang Sha or to make an appointment for a personal consultation at the Expo or register to watch Master Sha’s powerful Soul Healing Miracles speech live from anywhere in the world, visit: or call Master Sha’s Soul Healing Center in San Francisco: 415.971.7373.

Master Zhi Gang Sha is leading a soul healing movement around the world helping individuals to find a path to harmony with the universe, achieve work/life balance in their lives, change the world, inspire creativity, increase intelligence, and live a life that fulfills their soul’s purpose. Being a miracle soul healer, Master Sha focuses on Soul Power, and delivers ancient and new soul wisdom and enlightenment by lifting the soul to a higher spiritual level in heaven. Featured in Master Sha’s newest national bestselling book, Soul Healing Miracles, the Source Chinese Calligraphy scrolls radiate the power of soul healing miracles to transform the lives of all visitors who connect with the scrolls at Booth # 315 at the New Living Expo. Master Sha’s California-based Worldwide Representatives will be on hand to guide attendees to experience the power of the Source scrolls for self-healing, and to instruct attendees how to use the Soul Healing Miracles book for their personal needs. In addition, Divine Healing Hands soul healing blessings and soul readings, along with giveaways and prizes, are available every day at Master Sha’s Soul Healing Center Booth #315 at the New Living Expo.

Every day people around the world experience Soul Healing Miracles with Master Zhi Gang Sha and share their testimony on video. See these recent soul healing testimonials:

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About The Source Chinese Calligraphy

Master Sha uses a very unique, ancient and rarely taught technique of creating each word with only a single, continuous brush stroke on each of the nine The Source Chinese Calligraphy scrolls featured in the Soul Healing Miracles book. Because Master Sha channels the Source, he transmits blessings to the calligraphies, instantly incorporating the teachings and wisdom into these sacred scrolls. The Source Chinese Calligraphy scrolls create a healing field with the Source (frequency and vibration) power to transform all life, including boosting energy, stamina, vitality and immunity, as well as healing individuals’ spiritual, mental, emotional and physical bodies, thus preventing sickness, transforming relationships and bringing success to every aspect of a person’s life. Since the book’s publication in November 2013, thousands of people worldwide have shared their personal soul healing miracles on video testimonials. View this extraordinary real-person Soul Healing Miracle book video testimonial:

Each breathtaking Source Soul Light Calligraphy scroll represents one of nine sacred phrases in Chinese transmitted from The Source through Master Sha into the calligraphy to help humanity by nourishing the soul, heart, mind and body and promoting soul healing among earth’s inhabitants.

For more information about Master Zhi Gang Sha or to make an appointment to see him at Booth 315 at the New Living Expo, visit: or call Master Sha’s Soul Healing Center in San Francisco: 415.971.7373.

Dr. and Master Zhi Gang Sha is the world-renowned miracle soul healer. He has created thousands of soul healing miracles worldwide in the last ten years ( He is the founder of Soul Mind Body Medicine®. He was trained as a conventional medical doctor in China and a doctor of traditional Chinese medicine in China and Canada. The founder of the Institute of Soul Healing and Enlightenment™ and the Love Peace Harmony Movement™, Dr. and Master Sha is a grandmaster of many ancient disciplines, including tai chi, qigong, feng shui, and the I Ching. Dr. and Master Sha is also an expert in the most advanced cellular healing science now occurring in China. In the West, he is involved in breakthrough research on the effects of spirit on the human system. Dr. Sha was named Qigong Master of the Year at the Fifth World Congress on Qigong. In 2006, he was honored with the prestigious Martin Luther King, Jr. Commemorative Commission Award for his humanitarian efforts.

Dr. and Master Zhi Gang Sha has more than 108,000 followers on Facebook and an additional 250,000 devotees worldwide. The Soul Healing Miracles™ Chanting Channel and new Soul Healing Miracles app foster a global soul healing community to learn and use chanting and soul songs for spiritual, mental, emotional and physical development, 24/7. Dr. and Master Sha’s Soul Healing Miracles™ Daily Live TV airs everyday on Livestream, 9am PT, 12 pm ET. Dr. and Master Sha’s national television show, The Divine Soul Song Series airs several times each week across the US, as well as worldwide on’s worldwide digital network and Everyday people all over the world are experiencing personal Soul Healing miracles and sharing their video testimonials so that others can benefit from these powerful and life-changing results on

Dr. and Master Sha is author of more than 10 books in the Soul Power Series published by Simon & Schuster (Atria Imprint), with each book reaching the New York Times bestselling list and four of them reaching #1. Dr. and Master Sha’s new series, Soul Healing Miracles is published by BenBella with the first book entitled Soul Healing Miracles: Ancient and New Sacred Wisdom, Knowledge and Practical Techniques for Healing the Spiritual, Mental, Emotional and Physical Bodies. Released in November 2013, it was an instant national bestseller landing on the USA Today, Wall Street Journal and Amazon bestseller lists within days of publication.

In this groundbreaking book, Soul Healing Miracles, readers learn sacred wisdom, Source meditation and mantras to further their spiritual journey. Dr. and Master Sha is creating a global self-healing movement and his newest book empowers people to self-heal and to help others by using the healing energy from The Source Ling Guang (Soul Light) Calligraphy art printed in the book. The Source Ling Guang (Soul Light) Calligraphy art carries matter, energy, and soul of The Source, which can transform the matter, energy, and soul of the spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical bodies. The book is pre-programmed with tremendous healing energy from the Divine and offers soul healing possibilities to every person who holds the book, or meditates with the calligraphy inside the book. In Soul Healing Miracles, Dr. and Master Sha shares the Four Power Techniques™, including Body Power, Soul Power, Mind Power, and Sound Power to empower everyone to create their own soul healing miracles. His message in this series is:

I have the power to create soul healing miracles to transform all of my life.

You have the power to create soul healing miracles to transform all of your life.

Together we have the power to create soul healing miracles to transform all life of humanity and all souls in Mother Earth and countless planets, stars, galaxies, and universes.

Dr. and Master Sha always says, “Everyone can be a miracle soul healer. Learn how!”

All of Dr. and Master Sha’s Soul Power books, DVDs and CDs, reveal soul secrets, wisdom, knowledge and practical techniques to transform every aspect of life, and are bestsellers throughout the world. Visit Dr. and Master Sha on his website and to receive FREE daily Soul Healing blessings via webcasts, teleconferences, app, 24/7 Chanting Channel, and in-person at events held throughout the world.

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OCHO Inc. Releases Technology to Make Demanding Family and Household Schedules Manageable

Chicago, IL (PRWEB) April 10, 2014

OCHO technology is a gateway for anyone burdened with the difficulties of keeping everyday tasks on time, in order, and adequately communicated. The company launched its first product, an NFC Smart Key Tray that makes leaving notes, setting reminders and receiving notifications more simple than it’s ever been. The OCHO Pad has two weeks left for backers to pre-order on Kickstarter and become a part of the first round of production OCHO, Inc. has ever ran.

“This technology is truly for the average person to make everyday life more simple,” said Anthony Garvan, the Lead Software Designer at OCHO. “It’s incredibly usable, and we made it for ordinary families and people. It’s all about peace of mind, communication made easier and keeping better track of anything and everything in your daily routine.”

American culture has created a lifestyle that gets busier and demands more everyday. Busy working parents have it especially tough. OCHO technology brings a new way for them to feel certain that things are being communicated between each other with minimal hassle.

Kids are forgetful. If a working mom constantly questions whether her children have made it home safely from school, practice or other extracurriculars safely, the OCHO Pad can help. Attach an OCHO Tag to a child’s key. The minute he returns home and sets his keys on the OCHO Pad, a notification can be pushed to his mother’s smartphone. “Matt just arrived at home.” When a mother has a busy afternoon schedule, she can also program the OCHO Pad to push a notification to her son or daughter’s phone as soon as he or she returns home. “Don’t forget to make sure the door is locked. Be sure to take the dog for a quick walk. Love, Mom.” All the guesswork of remembering to send a text message and wondering if your loved ones made it home is eliminated.

While many would not like to admit it, adults are often just as forgetful as children. The OCHO Pad can help with remembering the menial but always important tasks many people forget to complete. Sometimes it’s difficult to remember to place a phone on the charger before bed at night. OCHO Pad can be set to remind a user if his or her cell phone is not plugged in on the OCHO Pad by 11 p.m. It’s an easy way to eliminate the morning catastrophe of a dead phone. Even getting to work on time can be tough sometimes. Users can give OCHO Pad the command “If I haven’t left home by 7:45am, sound my alarm on my phone, start flashing the lights, notify my significant other.”

The OCHO Pad has many more capabilities and allows users to create notifications around virtually any item through NFC or infrared technology. Ordinary items, such as wallets and keys, just need an OCHO Tag to work with the OCHO Pad. Visit the OCHO Kickstarter project page to back the campaign and be the first to pre-order OCHO Pad. Early bird pricing begins at $ 38 for the OCHO Mini and $ 68 for the OCHO Pad, and there are still several available. Once the early bird systems are all purchased, the Mini will cost $ 58 and the Pad will cost $ 88. Combinations and larger packages are also available. To get more information about OCHO or to back the project on Kickstarter, visit Also be sure to like OCHO Inc. on Facebook.


OCHO, Inc. is a US-based technology and engineering company. The OCHO engineering team has been involved with RFID product development for more than 10 years. The company focuses on development of new technology, intellectual protection of their inventions through the patent process and manufacturing through a network of overseas partners as well as sales and marketing of their products in USA. For more information visit

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The SpendSmart Payments Company, Inc. Acquires SMS Masterminds and Appoints Alex Minicucci as CEO

Des Moines, IA (PRWEB) March 27, 2014

The SpendSmart Payments Company (OTCQB: SSPC) (“SpendSmart”), a provider of payment solutions that support smart spending habits, announced that it has appointed Mr. Alex Minicucci as the Chief Executive Officer and a director of the Company. Mr. Minicucci is a proven entrepreneur with an 18-year background in web, ecommerce, and mobile marketing.

“In naming Alex Minicucci as the Company’s new Chief Executive Officer, we have gained a young, innovative and creative thinker with proven success in building a great business from the ground up with very little capital,” remarked Mr. Joe Proto, SpendSmart’s Chairman of the Board. “He’s remarkably adept at navigating and leveraging new marketing channels and will bring a fresh perspective and momentum to the Company, allowing us to further expand our consumer offerings.”

In November 2008, Mr. Minicucci founded SMS Masterminds, subsequently earning several recognitions such as ‘Top 20 under 40 Entrepreneur’ in 2013 in Tri-Counties California. From 2006 to 2008, he served as Chief Operating Officer of TechXpress, Inc., a managed service IT firm. Between 2000 and 2003, Mr. Minicucci built and sold one of the nation’s largest virtual tour providers, USA Virtual Tours, to MediaNews Group.

“I am honored that the SpendSmart Board of Directors chose me to lead the company,” said Mr. Minicucci. “Consumers are increasingly interested in mobile awards and offers tailored to them on a hyper local level, and our extensive licensee network across the US allows us to react quickly and deploy new campaigns with ease. My focus will be to drive our ability to bring valued and innovative products to the market, and I look forward to finding new opportunities for brand expansion. Leveraging the combination of SMS Masterminds’ rapidly growing licensee and merchant base as well as its over 1.6 million consumers using the mobile rewards service and SpendSmart’s payments capabilities will be a powerful combination in the mobile marketing and payments space.”

Mr. Michael R. McCoy, the outgoing Chief Executive Officer, will continue to serve as a director of the Company. “SpendSmart has taken a major step to expand its value proposition to its cardholders, and now the merchant community, through the SMS Masterminds acquisition. I look forward to continuing to serve on SpendSmart’s Board as we move into the next phase of company growth and expansion.”

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About The SpendSmart Payments Company

The SpendSmart Payments Company, Inc. (OTCQB: SSPC) is making money smarter. The Company is expanding its prepaid debit card services from issuing its own cards to select user demographic segments, to the providing SpendSmart Program Manager services to third-party card issuers. The Company’s primary product, the SpendSmart Prepaid MasterCard for teens, offers resources to families with teens who want to learn responsible spending habits. The SpendSmart card provides its users with modern methods of developing financial literacy, centered around a card solution for parents who aim to guide their teens in making sensible, economic choices. The card helps open the lines of communication between parent and teen by tracking spending in real time and, ultimately, creates teachable moments around smart spending habits. For more information, please explore

About SMS Masterminds

SMS Masterminds, a division of The SpendSmart Payments Company, Inc. (OTCQB: SSPC) is a technology company founded in 2008 by serial entrepreneur Alex Minicucci that is changing the way mobile marketing services are used by small and medium sized businesses. This new integrated, data-driven approach combines the core functions of SMS/text messaging, mobile web and email helping businesses create stronger relationships with their customers through the use of proprietary social and mobile marketing tools.

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Is Shock Treatment Effective In Keeping Kids From Smoking?

Greensboro, NC (PRWEB) March 20, 2014

Most young people who smoke aren’t worrying about the long-term effects, regardless of how many times they’ve heard “smoking is bad.” For parents, the goal should be to convey the risks of smoking in a way that is meaningful. Easier said than done, right?

So, what is meaningful to teens and tweens? How do we get through to them?

According to Dr. Michael Popkin, published parenting expert and spokesperson for the youth smoking prevention program “Real Parents Real Answers,” one answer is shock factor. Popkin suggests the more graphic your argument, the more emotionally meaningful and powerful your message becomes.

“Smoking has many well-known consequences such as heart disease, various cancers, mouth and throat disease, and chronic respiratory diseases; however, other adverse health effects are being researched and discovered all the time,” says Popkin. “And then there are the more short-term noticeable effects: yellow teeth, bad breath, tooth decay, chronic coughing, increased phlegm, wheezing, rapid aging, decreased sense of taste/smell, and the stench of smoke in your clothes, house, hair and car.

“However, simply naming these health consequences means very little to a tween who’s thinking these things happen to others, but not to him or her.”

In this online world, it’s easy to find graphic, disturbing and otherwise shocking information to share with your kids. However, Popkin warns that parents will have to use their judgment to know how much is enough. Ideas to consider range from showing your child what a healthy lung looks like versus the lung from a chronic smoker or taking your teen to meet with someone who has had a laryngectomy.

“Shock tactics aren’t for every child,” Popkin states. “But for some harder-to-reach kids, a healthy dose of reality shows that the dangers of smoking aren’t just empty threats – they’re real health concerns that are just as likely to affect your child as they are anyone else.”

Popkin notes that there are a myriad of options that will help parents effectively talk to their kids about not smoking and suggests parents visit for talking tips and tools. “It’s a conversation that parents need to have with their kids,” he says, “even if they are relatively sure it’s not something their child would do. Talking early and often about staying smoke free is the best tactic for keeping kids from participating in this dangerous behavior.”

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New Memoir by Jean Berry Reveals Heartbreaking Story of Abuse

Galway, Ireland (PRWEB) March 12, 2014

In her new memoir, “Girl in the Mirror” (published by Balboa Press), author Jean Berry uncovers the dark secrets her family has kept hidden for so long. Detailing the sexual abuse she endured as a child and her family’s refusal to acknowledge it, she takes readers on a journey from victim to victor as she breaks free from her family.

On the outside, Berry’s strict Catholic family appeared perfect with two loving parents, two sons and five daughters. Inside the house, however, was a nightmare. Both parents were alcoholics, and Berry was sexually molested by her father’s favorite employee and later a neighborhood boy.

When Berry was 15, she finally mustered the courage to tell two of her sisters about the abuse, but they remained indifferent. At 17, she told her mother but nothing changed. Her family refused to discuss the abuse and denied anything had happened.

“It wasn’t until I saw clearly the trap my family and many others have fallen into – the one of what other people think is more important than what we ourselves think – that I came to my senses and accepted at last the very things that I could change for the better for me, which meant walking away from my dysfunctional unsupportive family and their suffocating repression of my feelings and into the land of personal freedom!” writes Berry passionately.

It is Berry’s hope that “Girl in the Mirror” brings comfort and support to other victims of sexual abuse. She reminds readers that they can take back control of their lives and live as victors not victims.

“Regardless of whether public justice is served or not, with awareness and clarity, we can make decisions, big and small, that are best for us,” says Berry. “I have surmounted my pain through sheer determination; I refuse to let my family keep me down.”

“Girl in the Mirror”

By Jean Berry

Hardcover | 5.5 x 8.5 in | 228 pages | ISBN 9781452588131

Softcover | 5.5 x 8.5 in | 228 pages | ISBN 9781452588117

E-Book | 228 pages | ISBN 9781452588124

Available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble

About the Author

Up to recently, Jean Berry was living a normal life working full-time as a business consultant. In 2010 she relocated back to her birthplace to where her childhood abuse had taken place. Her story details her family’s denial of her abuse both then and now.

Balboa Press, a division of Hay House, Inc. – a leading provider in publishing products that specialize in self-help and the mind, body, and spirit genres. Through an alliance with indie book publishing leader Author Solutions, LLC, authors benefit from the leadership of Hay House Publishing and the speed-to-market advantages of the self-publishing model. For more information, visit To start publishing your book with Balboa Press, call 877-407-4847 today. For the latest, follow @balboapress on Twitter.


Prosperity Parenting

How parents sabotage their kids’ success and how they can ‘change the story’

Every parent wants the best for their kids. Yet millions of adults unknowingly sabotage their children’s chances for success.

I grew up poor. I was jealous of rich people and didn’t like them. So over the years I kept trying to get rich, not realizing that my subconscious mind was telling me, “Better stop doing that, or you’ll become one of the evil, mean, nasty rich people!”

The messages against wealth and prosperity are all around us, in our culture, media, and religions. But how many parents stop to think about how their own views on getting ahead influence their children’s ability to succeed?

Your core beliefs about everything related to prosperity – money, relationships, health, and spirituality – are set by the time you’re 10 years old. And no one influences those beliefs more than parents.

Millions of parents do this by conveying a negative vision of prosperity and success. If you tell yourself things like “If it wasn’t for bad luck, I’d have no luck at all,” and “I’m always a day late and a dollar short,” you will, consciously or subconsciously, convey these messages to your kids.

The truth is it’s really not that hard to change your beliefs – If you are aware of them and make that choice. Here are some tips:

Identify negative beliefs you may be creating in your children — Do some critical thinking about what kind of beliefs you developed in childhood about money, rich people and wealth. Honestly ask yourself, are you programming your children with thoughts such as money is bad, rich people are evil, or it’s spiritual to be poor? I call these “mind viruses.” Defeating them starts with acknowledging you have them.

Help kids identify anti-prosperity media messages: Did you ever stop to think about how blockbusters like Titanic and Avatar portray wealth, and how those stories can set kids up with attitudes that sabotage their future success? Talk to your kids about the subliminal messages they receive on TV, in movies and other media. Help them to become self-motivated critical thinkers.

Create a positive vision of prosperity: Examine how you react to families with more wealth than yours when speaking to your kids. Do you discuss them with envy or jealousy, or admiration and respect? Talk to your kids about how their thoughts about wealth can shape their future.

People have a hard time believing they are sabotaging their prosperity at age 30, 40, or 50 because of a belief that was formed when they were six, but I see it all the time. And that’s the book that gets written, unless you become aware of the plotline and decide to change the story.

Whether you and your children are on the path to poverty or prosperity is determined by the thoughts you give precedence to. Your thoughts come from the type of vision you have.

Everyone has a vision. Millions have a negative one; many more have a neutral one. It’s vital to help your children develop a positive one.


Randy helps audiences recognize and reject roadblocks to wealth and prosperity with warmth, wit and wisdom drawing from his rags-to-riches story. A former high school dropout, Randy rose from a minimum wage job and spending time in jail as a teen to become a self-made multi-millionaire who has inspired millions of people around the world. He is the author of eight books on success including Prosperity Mind and Accept Your Abundance that have been translated into more than 25 languages and sold millions of copies worldwide. He is among the contributors of Parent eSource about general parenting.

2014 Premier Philanthropic Cocktail Benefit Reception & Auction with Dolores M. Miller

Philadelphia, PA. (PRWEB) February 27, 2014

On April 9, 2014, The Support Center for Child Advocates (Child Advocates, celebrates 37 years as the nation’s leading pro bono legal and social service advocacy organization at the Annual Benefit Reception & Auction.

“Our silent and live auction, which has become one of Philadelphia’s premier philanthropic events, will be attended by over 1,000 legal, corporate and individual supporters.” – Frank Cervone, Executive Director

Supporters help children who need the

Support Center for Child Advocates!

For those interested in bettering the life of an abused or neglected child, there are several ways to change the story of children in Philadelphia:

1.    buy advertising (

2.    donate high end goods or services (

3.    buy a ticket, attend event, bid on high-end big ticket items (

“Like the saying goes – what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger, I have come through it all. As a survivor, I know your support will save abused children from years of needing to overcome obstacles that test their will and determination. I also had parents who adopted me, I am not writing this to say, oh, I went through a lot – but to thank all of those who really helped see that they are making a difference!”. – Dolores M. Miller, poet, author and winner of the distinguished advocate award for 2011

To purchase tickets or to advertise in the printed and bound book, visit

Donations can include:

    sports memorabilia,
    vacation get-a-way,
    gift cards for restaurants or clothing boutiques
    one-of-a-kind experiences
     meet with a celebrity
     event tickets
Are you able to attend this one-of-a-kind event? (

Enjoy both the live and silent auctions, indulge in cocktails and hors d’oeuvres, buy dream items and save the life of a child.

The event will be held

April 9th, 2014 5 – 8pm

The Crystal Tea Room,

The Wanamaker Building,

100 Penn Square East,

Philadelphia, PA

To make a donation or inquiry:

Contact: Cate Galbally



Dolores M. Miller, Poet and Author of the Beautiful Warrior writings is a proud supporter of Support Center for Child Advocates. As a survivor of child abuse, Dolores provides hope, courage and healing to the readers of her works. Dolores would like to offer more healing words and inspiration. “I believe in your compassion”, please visit to purchase the Beautiful Warrior books and please be sure to like DoloresMMiller on Facebook for daily inspirational messages. ”

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Parent Child Relationships

This article simply expresses my own thoughts and ideas on parent child relationships. It is certainly an intelligent dissertation based on my own education and experience. I would not however use my beliefs to counter anyone elses beliefs. Relationships are not exact and cant be approached with formulas which might work for mathematical equations and scientific experiments. Relationships are personal and there are too many variables involved for me to attempt to dictate what yours should be. Lets keep those thoughts in mind as we go forward.

The parent child relationship of different types of parents varies based on established social mores. Korean parents will not have the same relationship as urban Americans regardless of their race. Parents who lived four or five centuries ago certainly didnt have the same type of relationship with their children as parents today. The idea of what is normal is established by the mores of the society that the families exist in.

I feel that the most important aspect of the parent child relationship is that the child should trust the parent implicitly. The child may not like every decision that the parent makes but he or she needs to know that all decisions are made with their well being in mind. The parent should play additional roles as the childs mentor, disciplinarian, and guide. Discipline is essential because the child needs to know that there are bounds which cant be crossed in life. In other words it is imperative that the child learns in its formative years that it cant do whatever it wants to do. The parent however must recognize that the child needs room to explore and learn. Too many times we hinder the development of our children by being too strict as disciplinarians.

The child must learn at an early age to trust the parent as a mentor and guide. Confidence must be established. The child can only learn these things by observation. Many times parents think that their job is to give orders or administer commands and to expect blind obedience. The parent must set the established standard by setting the example for the child to follow. The parent who tells the child to go clean his or her room must use their own room as the standard. Anything less only confuses the child. Children will quickly learn to evaluate the words that the parent speaks. Children learn whether to use parents or grandparents to get what they want. They learn which behaviors will elicit the response that they want. We as parents must learn to be careful in our relationship with our children. We must learn to be loving but objective at the same time. We must objectively evaluate our own behaviors as well as those of our children and adjust them as required.

The most difficult parental role is that of the step parent. The natural spouse can make the step parent effective in their relationship with the child or children or they can totally sabotage the relationship based on the amount of support that they give. The mother who has been with her children as a single parent for a long period of time must be very careful not to undermine the step dad in his establishment of authority in the household, especially if the children are male and older.

Many say that the parent must also be a friend and I agree, however the parent must be a parent and disciplinarian first of all. The parents with whom the child resides must be the bigger disciplinarians because they child will get the majority of their socialization and ideals about life from what they observe at home. The Good Life

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Thursday, June 20, 2013

How to Stop Group Chat in iMessage on iPod Touch

kid-josh. (Jan. 29, 2012). Cyberbullying, would you do it [photo].


Has this ever happened to you? Your tween daughter somehow becomes part of a group chat on iMessages with several of her closest "friends." The next thing you know, the insults start flying. You tell her to simply leave the group, but you soon realize that this is impossible. As long as one member of the group continues to hit, "Reply," your daughter is stuck receiving unwanted text messages.

Apparently, there is a glitch in the Apple system that prevents users from leaving group chat situations. In fact, your daughter might not have even joined the group voluntarily. Anyone can just include her username in the chat, and she's in, whether she likes it or not.

Oftentimes, when a group member tries to ask other members to help delete the group, he or she is ridiculed by the other members. My daughter experienced this when members of her group began arguing and she asked them to stop and text elsewhere. Group members turned on her and said they were going to get revenge for her comment.

I encourage all parents who have experienced this situation to urge Apple to allow iPod Touch users to leave group chats with its next update. Contact them at 

Until enough parents complain and Apple decides to update the iOS system, the only way to get rid of a group chat is if everyone in the group deletes the messages. So what can you do if a group chat member refuses to stop hitting, "Reply"? Here are your options:
  1. Ask the group members to delete the group: A strongly worded message from "Sally's Mom" asking all group members to delete all group chat messages and stop hitting, "Reply" will sometimes motivate the group to let the chat die.
  2. Talk to parents: If group members refuse to stop the abusive texts, a phone call to a parent or two should do the trick.
  3. Turn off iMessages: Go to Settings--Messages, and turn off the iMessage app.
  4. Don't allow your child to create an iMessage account in the first place: Go to Settings--Restrictions--Accounts, and click "Don't Allow Changes." 

The iPhone does have an option under Messaging that allows users to select "No" to Group Messaging. Unfortunately, the iPod Touch has no such option, which is the device most tweens are using before age 12 or so.

Until this glitch is resolved, please be sure to monitor your daughter's text messages closely. A friendly group chat can quickly get nasty if one group member gets offended. And if anyone finds a way to delete a member from group chat on the iPod Touch, please let me know.

Saturday, May 25, 2013

No Justice When It Comes to Tween Body Image

Like most 10-year-old girls, my daughter loves to shop at Justice. So I was flipping through the latest Justice catalog that came in the mail, and I noticed a disturbing trend. Before I point out the obvious, see if you can see what's wrong with the following pictures:


OK, so besides the fact that these supposedly "tween" girls look about 18 years old, did you notice anything else?

How about the fact that all the girls have the exact same body shape? They are all tall and skinny with long arms and legs. They are all the same height and weight. Even all of their arms are the same length. Creepy, right?

Now think about how your daughter must feel to see an entire catalog full of girls "her age" wearing the clothes "everyone has to wear," yet she doesn't look at all like these girls. She's not as tall as they are. Her clothes don't fit her the same way. Her hair isn't as shiny as theirs, and her teeth aren't as straight and white.

What message is Justice sending our daughters?

After looking at this catalog, I decided to have a conversation with my daughter about body image. I asked her if there was something strange about all the girls in this magazine, and at first she wasn't sure. But when I pointed out that all the girls looked the same, she realized what I was talking about and wanted to know why.

I explained to her that companies like Justice choose girls that look a certain way to model their clothes. I also mentioned how the girls in the television shows my daughter watches tend to look the same way, such as the girls in "A.N.T. Farm," "Shake It Up," and "Austin and Ally" (although the Trish character in this show doesn't fit the mold).

We talked about how the media makes some girls think that their bodies aren't good enough if they don't look like the girls in the magazines. I pointed out to her that only a small handful of her friends look anything like the girls in those pictures. She has friends of all shapes and sizes, and it's all OK.

She seemed to understand what I was saying, and I was glad that we had that talk. Now I need to start preparing myself for the real girls who will soon start telling my daughter she's not pretty enough or tall enough or skinny enough. She will be in middle school next year, so it won't be long now.

I could be outraged with Justice for promoting this unrealistic body image to young girls. But I actually saw it as an excellent opportunity to talk with my daughter about her own body image and to reinforce her unique beauty. Fortunately, she has high self esteem and doesn't feel the need to compare herself to others. She's happy just the way she is. I hope her confidence is strong enough to get her through her teenage years in one piece.

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Why I'm Glad the Twinkie is Toast

To all of you nostalgic saps who are mourning the potential death of the Twinkie, I offer the following quiz:

How many Twinkies have you actually consumed in the past month? (NOTE: You should not count this week when the world decided that Twinkies were edible again.)
  1. If your answer is more than 10: How old are you, and how high is your body mass index?
  2. If your answer is between one and nine: Really? You picked a tasteless batch of chemicals over a Swiss Roll or an Oatmeal Creme Pie? 
  3. If your answer is less than one: Move on with your life and stop trying to relive your childhood.
The fact is, Twinkies are dead because they are disgusting, low-quality pseudofood. They taste like wet sponges filled with Vaseline. On a scale of dreadful to delicious, Twinkies rank right up there with Vienna sausages and potato sticks.

Yes, we all loved Twinkies when we were kids, but we also thought lead-based paint, Play-Doh, and boogers were pretty tasty. How sophisticated could our palates have been back then? Anyone who has eaten a Twinkie past the age of 25 should: a) reevaluate their snacking habits, and b) realize that, in a word, Twinkies are gross.

My kids have eaten Twinkies only once in their lives, and they didn't like them. They would much rather eat a freshly baked doughnut or a piece of actual cake. This is probably why Twinkies are dying to begin with: Americans are no longer satisfied with the bland TV dinners and prepackaged foods of years past. We can now get cheap, semi-healthy food at any fast food restaurant or grocery store.

Unfortunately for many busy families, this cheap, semi-healthy food has become a regular substitute for healthy, homemade food. Like most things, moderation is key.

So when it comes to the Twinkie, I certainly won't be shedding any tears. Taking Twinkies off the shelves means one fewer unhealthy food choice at the grocery store.

R.I.P., Twinkie the Kid. You will not be missed.

Saturday, November 17, 2012

Don't Lose Sleep Over New Co-Sleeping Study

A new study has found that women who co-sleep with their babies are possibly more prone to stress than those who don't.

I co-slept with both of my kids, and I could not disagree more.

According to a Fox News article, "Breastfeeding and co-sleeping with baby affects mom's welfare," the study followed 195 women in a Chicago suburb for six months after they gave birth. The study showed that mothers who slept with their babies had "less-than-optimal daily rhythms" of the stress hormone cortisol. Those who had the best rhythms were moms who breastfed and then did not share a bed with their baby.

Apparently, an "optimal rhythm" of cortisol is one in which the levels are high in the morning and then decline in the evening. The study showed that women who co-slept with their babies had less of a decline of cortisol throughout the day.

This study is bogus on many levels:
  1. Researchers only tested 195 women. That's hardly an adequate sampling of the overall population.
  2. They only tested women from a single Chicago suburb. Who's to say new moms in other areas of the country would have similar results?
  3. There is no evidence of a correlation between the cortisol levels and the co-sleeping. Maybe these women were stressed to begin with. Maybe they were poor, single moms. Maybe their pregnancies were unexpected and/or unwanted. Maybe they had other children to deal with or stressful jobs. Who knows? 
Photo courtesy Marta Dehnel, stock.xchng

All I know is that co-sleeping was the best thing that could have happened to me as a new mom. My daughter would NOT sleep unless she was physically touching me. I tried the whole "cry it out" thing, and after hours of nonstop crying (both my daughter and me), I decided that there had to be a better way. You want to talk about stress, try standing outside the bedroom door while your infant daughter is alone in her crib screaming herself hoarse.

She ended up sleeping with me almost every night until she was about 6 years old. I still occasionally sleep in her bed if she's feeling particularly needy.

My son, on the other hand, slept with me for less than a year. He didn't need as much physical contact, so he was in a "big boy bed" in no time.

As for the relationship between SIDS and co-sleeping, this article by Dr. Sears says that worldwide research has shown that the SIDS rate is lowest in countries where babies typically sleep with their parents. The vast majority of deaths from co-sleeping result from parents who smoke, who are obese, or who are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

The bottom line is that co-sleeping works for many families, and a single study should not discourage a mom from listening to the needs of her infant. You know your child best. Follow your instincts, and do what comes naturally. It's the best way for everyone to get a good night's sleep.

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Family Game Night a Great Way to Unplug

My husband made the greatest purchase of our lives last weekend when he found this Pokemon Monopoly game at a garage sale for a dollar.

Did you catch that? It's a Monopoly game about POKEMON!! And my kids are only ABSOLUTELY OBSESSED with Pokemon!

So for the past two nights, we have shut down the computers, walked away from the iPods and cell phones, and turned off the video games in order to play this game. We look just like those smiling families on the Hasbro Family Game Night commercials.

Artist's rendering our our Family Game Night experience

Pokemon Monopoly is a lot like the classic Monopoly game, except the little metal tokens are Pokemon characters (I'm Charmander).

You play with Pokedollars instead of money, you catch Pokemon instead of buying properties, and you purchase Pokemon Centers instead of houses. You can still go to jail, though, and you still have Free Parking (whatever the heck that is).

We have been having so much fun that I'm kicking myself for not doing it sooner. Like many families, we get caught up in our electronic worlds. Too many times, I've looked up from my laptop to see every member of my family glued to a screen somewhere. It's like we're all in the same room, but we live in different worlds. It disturbs me.

I'm the first to admit that it is extremely difficult for me to walk away from my computer. Between blogging (which I love), working (which I hate), and aimless surfing (which leeches my time like a parasite), I am constantly being pulled toward my laptop.

Family Game Night was a conscious decision to "unplug" for the sake of my kids. I am thinking of implementing a regular game night each week in which all electronics are turned off, and the family is turned some good old-fashioned fun.

A look through my hall closet revealed that we actually have a collection of different Monopoly Games from over the years: Star Wars Monopoly, The Simpsons Monopoly, and Electronic Banking Monopoly. Maybe we'll start a Monopoly Month, followed by Word Games Weeks (with Scrabble and Boggle), and maybe a fun action game such as Jenga.


The possibilities are endless, and it doesn't really matter what you play. The key is to make an effort to unplug from the gadgets and plug in to the family. Feel free to share your experiences.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Just Call Me the Sugar Nazi

My daughter had a friend sleep over the other night. I'm not a big fan of sleepovers, so we don't do them very often. But this girl is one of my favorites of Sally's friends. We'll call her Peggy. She's a nice girl, low maintenance, no drama. It's hard to find those qualities in a 10-year-old girl nowadays.

Peggy brought a large bag of leftover Halloween candy with her. We were going to the movies, so her mom let her bring the candy to take with us. She also proceeded to eat a great deal of the candy, both before and after the movie. Then the following morning, she drank chocolate milk with breakfast and started back in on the Halloween candy by 10:00 a.m.

As a result, Sally wanted to eat just as much candy as her friend. I tried to be cool about it, but anyone who knows me knows I have "issues" with sugar.

You see, we as Americans eat too much sugar. It's as simple as that. So I try to limit the amount of sugar my kids consume on a daily basis. This is much easier said than done because sugar lurks in EVERYTHING they eat and drink!

I tried to explain this to Sally the other day. She had eaten two of those Nature Valley Oats and Dark Chocolate granola bars for breakfast. (Yes, I know it's chocolate for breakfast. I regretted it as soon as I let her have it.) They have 12 grams of sugar, which is the same amount that's in some breakfast cereals. The problem was that she was still hungry and wanted to eat two of the peanut butter granola bars, too. Those have 11 grams of sugar.

So I broke it down and did the math. If she ate the extra granola bars, she would have consumed 23 grams of sugar, which is more sugar than two Reese's Peanut Butter Cups! And it was only 9:00 in the morning!

When I pointed this out to Sally, she seemed to understand, and she agreed to eat some cashews instead. But a normal mom without a sugar obsession might not think twice about giving her child a couple of extra granola bars. This is why we have so many overweight, unhealthy kids.

I did some research, and the American Heart Association recommends that preschoolers consume about 4 teaspoons (16 grams) of sugar per day, children 4-8 should eat around 3 teaspoons (12 grams) per day, and preteens and teens can consume 5-8 teaspoons per day. So my daughter just about met her quota for the day on the first granola bars alone.

I often feel as if I'm fighting a losing battle. Sugar is everywhere! Our children are programmed to seek it out, and adults are programmed to give it to them. My mother is an expert at justifying giving my kids junk food.

She'll say things like, "Look, this pudding has calcium in it," or "At least frozen yogurt is healthy."

Sometimes I just need to lighten up and let my kids eat sweets, but someone has to be the voice of reason in this greedy, excess-driven world. I hope I'm not giving them eating disorders by making such a big deal about their sugar intake, but at the same time I don't want obese, cavity-infested kids, either. I suppose there's a balance to be struck.

As we finally say goodbye to the Halloween candy, we can now look forward to the gluttony of Thanksgiving and the greed of Christmas. Happy holidays!


Monday, November 12, 2012

When Another Adult Disciplines Your Child

My 8-year-old son had an eye doctor's appointment today. He wears glasses, and he has not been able to see as well as he should, so I took him in to get a new prescription for some new glasses.

We saw a new doctor that we hadn't seen before. He seemed nice enough, but when the doctor put that refractor machine over M's face (the one with all the lenses that looks like a pair of space-aged binoculars), things got a bit wonky.

In case you're new here, M has mild Asperger's Syndrome as well as some sensory processing issues. He is a sensory seeker, meaning he is constantly feeling, touching, tasting, and squirming. He can't help himself. It's a compulsion for him to touch things. So when the doctor pushed that giant metal mask up against his face, his first instinct was to bring his wiggly fingers up for a quick touchy-feely.

The doctor told him a couple of times not to touch, but M just couldn't help himself. (When I asked him about it later, he told me he didn't even know he was touching it.) So finally the doctor had enough. He brought out the big guns: a booming voice that actually scared both M and me.

"I do NOT want you to touch this," he said with such authority that my insides went cold. "It is very expensive to have this equipment cleaned, so you will NOT touch it again."

M just said very quietly, "OK," and he put his hands under his legs so that he wouldn't forget.

After that, the doctor became quite friendly. He immediately changed the tone of his voice, and he was both polite and encouraging throughout the rest of the exam. I decided it was best to keep my mouth shut at the time, but now I'm wondering if I should have said something to the doc.

When we left the office, I asked M if the doctor had scared him or hurt his feelings, and he said no. Apparently, the incident didn't phase him at all. It did, however, phase me.

I can't stop thinking about it: Should I have said something to the doctor? Should I have stuck up for M and told the doc not to yell at my child? Should I have explained that M has sensory issues and can't help having feely fingers?

Or did the doc do the right thing? M should have listened and not touched the equipment. But when I asked him about it later, he said he didn't even remember doing it. What's the right course of action here?

I went to bat for M this summer when his principal put him in the 3rd grade class with the meanest teacher in the school. I had heard that a child actually wet her pants in this teacher's class because she was afraid to ask to use the bathroom. I told the principal that we don't yell at our kids at home, and we will not tolerate our child being yelled at in school. I won that battle, and M now has the kindest, sweetest teacher I could ask for.

Should I have gone to bat for him today?

This issue concerns me on several levels. On one hand, M's personality (and anyone with an Aspie would probably agree) makes him a bit annoying sometimes. He tends to stand too close, talk too loud, and wiggle too much. It gets on people's nerves.

On the other hand, his personality also makes him oblivious to the fact that he annoys people! He has no idea why his grandmother doesn't want him to "eat" her hair or why his friends back away when he starts touching their faces. And today, he didn't bat an eyelash when the doctor raised his voice and reprimanded in a very firm manner. So in a way, it's a blessing that he is so unaware of how others view him.

I guess I did the right thing by keeping my mouth shut at the doctor's office. As long as it didn't upset M, I'm OK with it. I just don't want to find out that a teacher has been yelling at him or another student has been bullying him, and he doesn't even realize it. I suppose that's a bridge we will cross when we come to it.

It's a tricky business to stick up for your kids. Mine are getting to the age where they need to start standing up for themselves. I can only hope that when the time comes, M will know what to do.